When should new moms wear bikinis? Whenever they want.
Why should they wear bikinis? Because they want to.
No one should have to defend their choice to wear a bikini to a pool or beach, or anywhere that it is appropriate to be in a bathing suit in the first place. So when this new mom was body shamed at a public pool, she had the perfect response for the women's negative remarks.
Lexi Sinclair, a 21-year-old from Kansas City, Missouri, took her 4-month-old son to the pool for a day of fun and sunshine.
According to a Facebook post about an incident that occurred, the new mom wrote that an older woman who she didn't know approached her and began making conversation. At first, the stranger asked questions about her son Christian, but then her comments turned on the mother.
"She then proceeded to tell me that the men at the pool would feel more comfortable if I was in a one-piece swim suit because a bikini isn't appropriate for a mother, especially one who's 'still recovering,'" Sinclair explained.
Sinclair didn't want to start a fight, but she didn't want this woman to think it was ok to tell women what to do and not to do.
"Anyone who knows me knows I had a few words for this crazy, ballsy woman," Sinclair shared. "But instead I just smiled, kissed my son and told her, 'I'm proud of my body. In just one year I've gained 50 pounds, and lost 37. I've grown a human and given birth to a beautiful miracle. My body provided food for my child. So, no, my body might not be the best sight for other men to see. My stretch marks and tummy pudge might not be sexy. But they're proof that I've done something amazing, and I have a man that loves me and finds me even sexier and more beautiful now. To be honest, I don't give a tiny rats a-- what other men, or a prissy twit like you think. Have a nice day though.'"
While the woman's words did not affect her day much more than motivating her to write a Facebook post, she said she felt she needed to speak up on behalf of other women.
In the meantime, Sinclair is focusing on enjoying her son and living her own life.
“I can’t pretend my post-baby body is what I wish it was, but I also won’t feel ashamed that I have it,” Sinclair admitted. “I want other moms to know it’s OK to wear what you want to wear. Scars and stretch marks are just proof you’ve loved someone more than you love yourself.”