Eliminate These 11 Behaviors + Feel Happier Instantly!

| Well Being

We're surrounded by various tips and tricks (some that work, some that do not) to help us lead a happier, fuller life, but maybe it isn't what we need to start doing, but what we need to stop. Identifying the negative is proven to help us make positive life changes. Huffington Post rounded up 11 things that we're all doing (maybe even right this second) that are making us unhappy. So, identify, evaluate, adjust, and then witness change.

Hold A Grudge

woman holding a grudge against her husband

Forgiveness is the key to freedom. As Marianne Williamson says, "Forgiveness is actually out of self-interest." When we hate, feel anger or resentment towards another, the intended impact, to hurt them, backfires on us. We harbor the anger and resentment within our own minds and bodies. And it's poisonous. Under Williamson's advice, try to see a situation differently. How must my enemy have felt to act the way they did? What fear did they feel? What good qualities does this person have that perhaps I have never thought about? I have four sisters, and one of them has not spoken to me in 12 years -- despite lots of effort on my part. It made me confused and angry for a long time. My forgiveness way of thinking opened me up to compassion. When I think of her now I do so with love. It takes practice but this does get easier.

Give Up On Our Dreams

bored woman in a work meeting

To me this is the saddest one. As Marie Forleo says, "The world needs that special gift that only you have." So often we bury our gifts, follow a "safe" path or simply do not have the courage to pursue what it is that we want. This results in a lot of regret later in life and even in the present moment. I heard once that the definition of hell is when the person you are meets the person you could have been. Our inner voice knows when we are not living our truth and this voice does not go away although we do our best to tune it out. By ignoring our dreams we are not sharing our unique gifts with the world.

Not Making Time For What Brings Us Joy

busy woman working at home

This is aligned with number two. Do you love to write, draw, sing, teach? When we do not make what brings us joy a priority we are often completely unaware of the happiness we could be experiencing. It results in a much less rich, less colorful life.

Settle For Superficial Relationships 

group of women talking during lunch

Since moving to New York I really noticed this. When making new friends I realized that a lot of time people do not talk about things that really matter, let alone make themselves vulnerable. Whenever I bring up my early divorce or humble upbringing, people tend to open up with me too, as we all secretly want to make a genuine connection with other people. People often tell me, "Its so nice to talk about this stuff." We don't realize that connecting with others has nothing to do with our exotic vacations or successful career stories -- it is about making a soul connection which often arises from deeper conversations.

Compare!

three women talking to each other outside Buddha said, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Comparison is selective, exaggerated and unreal. We have no idea what is going on in other people's lives. We may envy their fortune but not know their child is struggling with bullying or that their marriage is falling apart. Instead we should be too busy envying our own good fortune (gratitude, my friends).

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